A few days back, I shared a method of writing about fears and resentments in order to release them. Read about the practice that I learned on a website called The Crappy Childhood Fairy on my previous “How to Cope with a Corrupt Judge Like Lee P. Rudofsky” here.

In the spirit of CoDA (Co-Dependents Anonymous) I am sharing my practice from this morning with you, my readers.

CoDA is another helpful tool to deal with difficult people like narcissists and try to find what in us is attracting those relationships. I went to meetings and a home group for about three years. I wish I did not stop when I was feeling “cured”. It may have saved me from being in a six-year relationship with an alcoholic, fraudster who brought prostitutes into our home. (My current husband is a dream come true. We can learn and change and find a happy ending.)

My handwritten note, above, says:

“Fear I did not get enough sleep last night. I fear I will be tired all day. I fear I will not be able to do my court work. I fear my anxiety will increase and I won’t be able to fall asleep tonight. I resent PRA and Judge Rudofsky for making a simple case so difficult by lying and colluding. I resent not having a fair and honest judiciary. I fear people with positions as judges will force me into bankruptcy. I fear that my body and mind won’t carry me through building up my retirement fund again. I resent that I have been a hardworking, productive member of society and will spend my old age in poverty.

“I am now ready and humbly ask that you, God, remove these fears and resentments. I pray to know your will for me today, and have the strength to carry it out.”

Now it is time to ritually release these resentments and fears by soaking the paper in water, wadding it up and throwing it out.

I suggest you write your practice by hand, instead of typing on a computer keyboard. First, handwriting is said to access a certain part of our brains that does not happen with typing. Second, I would hate for you to have to smash your computer with a baseball bat or throw your cell phone in the toilet to accomplish the ritual release.