You are having trouble representing yourself in court because your judge appears to favor your opponent, one who is represented by an attorney.

Maybe the ACLU can help.

The common acronym stands for the American Civil Liberties Union. The ACLU is an organization in the United States dedicated to defending and preserving the individual rights and liberties guaranteed to every person in the country by the Constitution and laws of the United States.

When ordinary people are denied due process and equal justice because they cannot retain an attorney, and the judge favors the represented party out of cronyism, there is no justice.

The ACLU might not be able to help each pro se litigant, but if many of us fill out the brief intake form on the ACLU website, perhaps the preeminent public service organization will choose a case that reflects all the others.